Confusion

Its ok to remember, its ok to have them come back.
But why is it only the bad memories n thoughts that come back SO often
and the good so far away?
Affected by it.yes.
afftected by it when u were in the wrong the first place?
when the victim can move on n forget, why does the one thats in the wrong not?
instead make it seems like its the others fault.
Understanding.yes
Is trying to be loving n supporting not enuff?
instead these efforts create room for further fault
trying not hard enuff, wheres the appreciation, only criticism
Giving in.
Haven i tried?
not good enough?

Think about it this way
When u drive a car,
Hit a person on a road.
U think to yourself.
Why did that person even try to cross the road n get into my way
Its his own fault n deserved outcome.
THEN is there still room for being sorry for causing the accident?
OR reflecting on one's own actions?
EVEN if the one that got knocked down agrees to let it pass
the driver insist that its not his/her fault n instead tell the injured that its his fault.
HOW would the injured think?